By Lisa Evans 4 minute Read The idea that men and women speak a different language is well-worn in regards to personal relationships, but John Grayauthor of the famous relationship guide Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus says the same communication difficulties we struggle with in our personal lives also play out in the office. He, along with gender intelligence specialist Barbara Annisconducted overinterviews with male and female executives and coauthored Work With Me to highlight the blind spots in workplace communication that create conflict between the sexes. Some men felt these questions slowed down progress and delayed decision-making, while others felt questions were a sign that a female boss was being too controlling or critical.
Research presented by Dr. Consequently, behavior that seems natural and appropriate to one gender culture can seem baffling, hurtful or wrong to others. When we work with someone of the opposite gender and he or she does something that seems a bit strange, we often become intolerant and defensive.
We do not realize that men and women come from different cultures, even if they are raised in the same homes, educated in the same schools and live in the same country. The two gender cultures are different in many ways. Understanding the invisible rules unique to each gender can help us become better team members and leaders.
There are always exceptions to the rule. Examples given are based on what research tells us. The Hierarchical Culture of Men In every culture of the world, children are taught to be appropriate adults through the games they play.
When boys are growing up, they play baseball, basketball, football, cops and robbers, cowboys and Indians and war, all of which are hierarchical team sports.
They learn how to compete, be aggressive, play to win, strategize, take risks and mask emotions. Playing their assigned role in the hierarchy, boys learn to obey their coach unquestioningly, become leaders and play with people they do not like. Consequently, when adult women enter a hierarchical workplace, they often attempt to equalize power, negotiate relationships and share power equally.
Gender Differences in the Coast Guard Does this mean that since the Coast Guard is a hierarchical organization, women cannot succeed? Does it mean that the hierarchical leadership style is always the appropriate choice?
The command and control leadership style associated with a hierarchy works most effectively in time-bound situations, when there is no alternative or in emergencies.
For example, on scene at an urgent search-and-rescue case, the command and control style works best. Time is limited, one person needs to be in control of the situation and everyone needs to fulfill their specific roles. There, the supervisor needs the expertise and ideas of everyone on watch to make the best decision.
Each person might provide additional ideas as to how the case could best be handled. In a flat structure then, the leadership style is based on involvement.
Clearly, the Coast Guard has many different situations that require different leadership styles. Using the same style in every situation is a quick recipe for ineffectiveness.
By understanding the different styles, we can more successfully choose the appropriate one for the situation. Cultural Misunderstandings Sometimes the tendency for women to associate with one style and men to associate with the other leads to misunderstandings.
For example, on a large cutter, a male chief was supervising a female second class petty officer. He directed her to perform a certain task.Gender communication research continues to explore gender in these contexts, thus helping redefine how gender is understood and behaved.
We explored differences in gender communication styles by looking at language, the purpose of communication, patterns of talk, and nonverbal communication.
Strategies to Bridge Gender Differences and Value Diverse Styles If you grasp the importance of effective gender communications and gender equality in the workplace, then start making a difference today using the following gender communication strategies.
Now, the differences between men and women can be exaggerated, resulting in unnecessary division between the genders. 4 Or, the differences between men and women can be ignored, yielding confusion about the whole concept of “gender.” 5 In both cases, communication is a key tool contributing to the division and the confusion.
communication styles and speech acts fall onto a continuum of “masculine” and “feminine.” It features vignettes with men and women that have taken on roles that fall outside of what is standard for their gender in.
Although at times differences in women's and men's communication styles seem to be constant and overwhelming, they are really quite minor. For example, both women and men can be nurturing, aggressive, task-focused, or sentimental.
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